Understanding Love Bombing: When Intense Attention Feels Like Love — But Isn’t
- Jul 17
- 3 min read
A letter from Parita Sharma — RA:WON Playbook | SEVEE
Dear Narcissistic Abuse Survivor,
If someone ever made you feel like the most special person in the world —and then left you confused, drained, and doubting yourself —this is for you.
They said all the right things.They messaged you morning to night.They promised forever within a week. It felt magical. Almost like fate.
But then it changed.
You started walking on eggshells.
You tried harder to keep the magic alive.
You blamed yourself when they pulled away.
You thought, “Maybe I’m too much. Maybe I ruined it.”
Let me gently tell you:
That wasn’t love.
That was love bombing.
A cycle of fast affection, followed by sudden coldness — designed to hook you, not hold you.
I’ve been there.
I know the high.
And I know the crash.
This piece isn’t to shame you — it’s to free you.
To name what happened.
To tell you that it wasn’t your fault.
And to remind you: Real love doesn’t confuse. It grounds.
So let’s walk through what love bombing is, why it happens, what signs to look out for — and most importantly, how to find your way back to yourself.
You’re not alone. And you’re not broken.
You’re just finally waking up from a very well-designed illusion.
With care,
Parita Sharma
Founder, SEVEE | Survivor | RAWON Whisperer
What is Love Bombing?
Love bombing is when someone showers you with extreme attention, affection, or praise — especially at the beginning of a relationship — to gain control or power over you.
It might look like love.But it’s actually manipulation.
It’s not always intentional, but it’s always damaging. Because it tricks your nervous system into feeling safe —then leaves you abandoned, anxious, or craving the very person who harmed you.
“You’re my soulmate” — too soon
Constant texting, calls, or check-ins that feel overwhelming
Big gifts or declarations without deep emotional connection
They push for quick commitment: moving in, exclusivity, even marriage
They get upset if you set a boundary, need space, or move slower
Love bombing isn’t about getting to know you.It’s about sweeping you off your feet — so you won’t notice your feet are leaving the ground.
What Happens After the Bombing?
This is where most survivors get stuck.
After the highs of love bombing come the lows:
Coldness or distance
Passive-aggressive comments
Guilt-tripping
Sudden disappearances
Silent treatment
Or emotional withdrawal until you chase them
And if you don’t? They might come back and do it again —more flowers, more charm, more promises.
Until you’re so dizzy, you stop trusting your gut.
Why Do People Love Bomb?
Because it works. Love bombing gives them power, admiration, loyalty — fast. And for someone who craves control or fears abandonment, that rush is addictive.
They might believe what they say in the moment —but they can’t sustain it. Because it was never love. It was need. It was control wrapped in warmth.
A Gentle Truth from SEVEE
You didn’t fall for something silly. You responded like any human would — to kindness, care, attention.That makes you loving, not naive.
But now…you get to pause. You get to ask:Was that love, or was I being emotionally managed?
Real love doesn’t make you beg for clarity. It doesn’t vanish when you say “slow down.”
What To Do If You’ve Been Love Bombed
Name it. That’s where your power begins.
Stop blaming yourself for “ruining” something fake.
Go slow in future connections — notice who respects your pace.
Talk to someone who believes you. Who holds your truth with care.
At SEVEE, we don’t judge your story.We walk with you through it — gently, at your pace.Whether you're confused, hurt, angry, or just tired of doubting yourself…
You’re welcome here.
Book your safe session with SEVEE Because you deserve real love — not emotional bait.
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